Dad fumes at school leaflet suggesting daughter ‘suck boyfriend’s toes’
A dad of a teenage girl has slammed her school for dishing out leaflets suggesting she "suck her boyfriend's toes" instead of having sex.
Security worker Carl Lawrence, 35, says 14-year-old Emma came home from Shevington High School in Wigan, Greater Manchester, with a relationships and sexual health booklet last month and had been told to "discuss it with a parent".
Upon first glance the "101 Ways To Show Someone You Love Them Without Having Sex" handout appeared quite innocent – suggesting teens give their partners chocolates or compliments.
However the dad-of-five was left "bewildered and shocked" to discover suggestions that the youngsters suck toes, nibble ears or even propose marriage.
As well suggesting his 14-year-old daughter drive a car despite being underage, the Spectrum Community Health CIC-created leaflet proposed she "go on a loveboat" or even buy each other underwear.
Carl, from Tyldesley, Greater Manchester, said: "I was bewildered. I understand children need to be made aware of the world, but should we really be promoting fetishes in Year Nine? I don't think so.
"The first thing that stood out was 'suck their toes'. That's quite niche.
"There were some [ideas] I was really shocked at. I don't think they've hit the target demographic. There is no way I think a 14-year-old should be reading this.
"When I spoke to my daughter I said 'you do know this isn't the only way to do things?'
"Surely they can just enjoy each other's company. They can go for walks, watch a film, go to Burger King, go to the park.
"There's tons of things she can do that don't involved getting someone's big toe in her mouth."
The dad was fuming when he discovered Emma's Year Nine group been taught the material in class and youngsters in the years above and below had also been given the material.
Now Carl is urging Spectrum and Shevington High School to 'proof read' the literature in future to ensure it's age appropriate.
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Spectrum Community Health CIC defended the leaflet's contents and said they helped young people make "safer choices".
Emma had initially taken the sex ed booklet home to her mum Stacey Larkin, but she was so embarrassed she passed the baton of responsibility to Carl.
After finding out the booklet had been handed out to children aged 13 to 15, Carl then decided to jokingly message Emma's boyfriend about the toe-sucking tip.
He has since urged educators to give teens the chance to "find things out themselves" instead of "pointing them in the direction of every other possibility".
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Carl said: "This is prime age for sex education, but it may be a bit strange if she's thinking about sucking her boyfriend's toes.
"I sent [her boyfriend] a message saying 'if you remember six months ago, I warned you, 'whatever you do to my daughter I'm prepared to do to you. Well, when it comes to sucking toes, you're safe – I'm going nowhere near your trotters'.
"He replied 'me neither. That's disgusting – I didn't even know that was a thing.'
"There were also bits about being careful about inhibitions when drinking alcohol, which is great.
"We should be saying there are alternatives to the physical side of things, but I don't think we should be pointing them in the direction of every other possibility.
"I think when it comes to children, as parents and responsible adults, we safeguard them. There's certain things kids should learn about through their life.
"Kids like to explore and find things out themselves."
Emma said: "We were all telling the other years and asking 'have you been told to suck people's toes?' They said yes. It was given out to one year above and one year below."
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Shevington High School said that the council would respond on its behalf.
Wigan Council said Spectrum Community Health CIC would respond on their behalf.
A spokesman for Spectrum Community Health CIC said: "Spectrum's Relationships and Sex Education Programme provides information and support to young people throughout their high school journey, helping them to make safer choices.
"From year nine onwards we also introduce our RSE magazine, which is adapted every year in response to feedback from young people, parents and schools.
"The 101 Ways were created by teenagers and are referenced by Spectrum in the context of the classroom lessons they support."
Ten bizarre suggestions in the leaflet…
- Suck their toes
- Propose marriage
- Drive for two hours to see them for one
- Nibble their ears
- Buy them some nice underwear
- Walk a thousand miles for one of their smiles
- Each suck one end of a long piece of spaghetti
- Go on a loveboat
- Buy them a piece of the moon
- Tell them they are beautiful even if they look rough
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